My son recently discovered the TV tray next to the chair in his room where I nurse him. He arched his little back over the armrest and soon discovered it was so fun to hang upside down and hit the underside of the tray with both hands at the same time.
At first I only let him pound on it a few times before pulling back. “Levi, it’s time for eating.” I said as I tried to get him to finish nursing. Wait a second. What am I doing?!
My 6 month old with an attention span of about 10 seconds thinks this little game is so fun and isn’t sick of it yet. Why am I trying to rush him back to business when there is playing to be done? And, why am I robbing myself of the great delight that comes from watching him delight in a new game?
Sometimes we do things without really thinking. It’s almost like because our culture pushes us to rush through activities - rushing when we eat, rushing from one commitment to the next, rushing, rushing, rushing that we think we should rush when we raise children.
Hmmm... What a bad idea!
Children find joy in the most common of things by being fully present. They really see the things all around them and truly take delight in them. Even if I can’t go back and regain this ability myself, being a mom is my invitation to slow down and enjoy watching a little one who can.
I look forward to tomorrow when my little man gets a big grin on his face and arches over the side of my armrest. I’m going to let him play there and fully soak him in.