Exactly As He Is
I took my son Levi grocery shopping last week. We were in the baking aisle when a woman took notice of my adorable bundle. She smiled big at him and started talking "baby" in his face. She commented on how blue his eyes are - I know, how cute he is - I know, and then asked me how old he is. I told her he'd be six months next week. Without even thinking she said, "Well he looks like he just got here yesterday. Why's he so small?"
I realize people don't think before they speak when you have a baby in hand. It's almost like because they think the baby doesn't understand what they're saying they have permission to say whatever they think without any kind of filter.
Why's he so small? A few replies raced through my mind...
...compared to what?
...did you really just say that?
...I don't know, why are you so big?
But I would never say these things to her. How rude! That's exactly the point. People make statements all the time about babies that they would never make otherwise in normal life. And we as parents who do understand exactly what they're saying are left to decide, how will we respond? I find the words I choose to reply with are less important than the thoughts I personally hang onto.
I could choose to internalize random people's foolish statements about my son. Or I could not.
I could let it go, forgive her, and continue enjoying my little man exactly as he is.